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Don’t be a control freak.
Just like the song from Frozen… let it go. You did all the prep you鸿运彩票手机app needed to do prior, and hopefully you鸿运彩票手机app delegated to a few key people for the day of [the ceremony].
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Don’t be overly caught up in how you鸿运彩票手机app look.
Easy to say, but so true. It doesn’t matter what size you鸿运彩票手机app are by the time you鸿运彩票手机app walk down the aisle or whether or not you鸿运彩票手机app have the zit of you鸿运彩票手机appr life on you鸿运彩票手机appr face, what matters is the experience of getting married to this fabulous person and sharing it with you鸿运彩票手机appr loved ones.
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Don’t feel like you鸿运彩票手机app have to memorize vows.
Many people feel like the sentiment won’t be genuine unless they recite their own vows from memory. Take the pressure off and put them in a binder for the celebrant or on note cards. What matters is the emotion.
Don’t ignore you鸿运彩票手机appr new spouse at the reception.
This happens all the time. Everyone vies for the attention of the bride and groom, but it often leaves them separated for much of the night while one of you鸿运彩票手机app gets you鸿运彩票手机appr ear talked off by Uncle Morty, and the other one talks honeymoon details with Aunt Millie for hours.
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Don’t get drunk.
I feel like I shouldn’t have to say this, but just in case — just don’t do it. Having a couple of drinks to celebrate and unwind is perfectly acceptable. But you鸿运彩票手机app want to be sure you鸿运彩票手机app are fully coherent and able to enjoy the entire evening — and next morning — without being sloshed.
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Don’t NOT take care of you鸿运彩票手机apprself.
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Don’t expect mind-blowing wedding night sex.
The reality is that you鸿运彩票手机app’ve likely already sex with one another and you鸿运彩票手机app will probably be exhausted from all of the planning and prep before the wedding. Cut you鸿运彩票手机apprselves a break.
Yes, some are couples shocked that they don’t/can’t have sex on their wedding night. I believe that’s okay as long as you鸿运彩票手机app are staying connected and affectionate otherwise.
In this case, lowering you鸿运彩票手机appr expectations is a good thing. Don’t expect to have the most intensely fulfilling orgasm ever or to simultaneously orgasm together in wedding night bliss. Just be open and fully present with one another and the right thing will happen.